TALKING TO STRANGERS:
What We Should Know about the People We Don’t Know
Malcolm Gladwell
BLURB
In the book, Talking to Strangers, author Malcolm Gladwell starts off sharing about Sandra Bland. The incident she endured led him to write this book. Sandra was a black woman who while driving failed to use her turn signal while changing lanes. That led to her being pulled over and the exchange between the police officer and her got out of hand. The police officer became irritated by Sandra and the end result was her being arrested and put in jail. A couple of days later she was found dead her jail cell (death by suicide). You can watch the whole incident on youtube.
The author sets out to find out why people have a failure to communicate with each other.
The beginning and the ending of the book are about the Sandra Bland case but the rest of the book dissects other incidents in our history where we take people at face value and how at times that fails us. We think we can judge a person by looking at them, hearing them, etc but because people are deeply layered, can anyone really know someone from a casual meeting? Gladwell talks about Truth Default Theory, Transparency, and Coupling.
The book questions how differently the interaction with the police officer and Sandra Bland might have taken and what might have been the end result. Or better yet should she have been pulled over in the first place? Was the failure to signal a lane change significant enough to warrant the officer to pull her over. So many things could have happened and should have happened differently that would have led to a different outcome for Sandra Bland.
This book will show the reader mistakes made in history that still play a part in the way we see the world. Kind of like seeing a Twitter video that has you shaking your head at how a person can treat a stranger with such disregard … this book is that for the reader.
I picked this book up after listening to Dax Shepard’s podcast where he interviewed Gladwell. Since they didn’t discuss the book I had no clue what the book would be about. I figured it would be a basic self-help book on how to talk to a stranger. While it really isn’t that type of book, it took me on a journey I wasn’t expecting.
I listened to the audio. The author used the actual audio where people told their story and in other areas he used actors to reenact a scene. It made for an intriguing listening experience. Almost like listening to a podcast.
